Reformed view on dating
At least you can have some fun along the way, or so it goes.
The problem is that the heart doesn’t work that way.
Often the father would say no the first time, watching this lad to see his reaction. He has the right and duty to put up such a barricade, that only the most worthy of suiters gains entrance into the life of his cherished daughters.
Only after repeated attempts, and many visits, would he even consider this proposal. to find out that one of their children has a boyfriend or girlfriend (usually over dinner or on the way out the door).
[Love] Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; 1 Corinthians 13:6 We are constantly bombarded in our day with messages which seek to destroy the Biblical definition of marriage.
If we don’t treat our own and others’ hearts carefully, there will be a lot of pain and bleeding. Not only does this system teach our youth to give themselves emotionally to someone whom they will never marry, it sets the groundwork for divorce by cultivating a dissatisfaction for what has been given to them, longing to try something different or “better”.If one isn’t finding fulfillment in the other person, then you can simply break up and move on.It’s not much different from finding the right pair of shoes.Dating usually begins in the mid to late teens, whereas courtship begins at the time just to marriage.Dating is “having fun” with the opposite sex with no strings attached.
We are not given to them to be popular, or their friends, More harm comes to many of us through dating than in any other way.