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We usually don't announce we went to the store.We announce something that happened when we went to the store that made us feel or think a certain way, which are covered in the previous paragraphs.
Some of the symptoms of emotional invalidation on our psyche are: Feeling that you will never be good enough. Understanding the effects of chronic emotional invalidation and internalised self invalidation is essential to our healing, helping us to shed the false self with all its deeply unconscious fears and insecurities.Just having a hard time grasping the whole concept..Say a partner says something that hurts your feelings and when they express that hurt you dismiss their feelings as silly or infantile even though most people would also be hurt under the same circumstances.Its a very painful state of affairs and we have no way of healing from it until we come to understand the countless ways in which emotional invalidation operates to block our true feelings, self and needs. Feeling overwhelmed by decision making or just overwhelmed in your ability to function in daily life. Being unable to have a realistic sense of one’s strengths and weaknesses. That is : experiences them only as pulling, pain, tearing, burning, squeezing. One of the reasons borderline personality has that name is that those of us who suffer from it live on the border of psychosis, we live very close to the unconscious, most especially the body unconscious, our triggers of past difficulties, frustrations and traumas are never very far from the surface and often they can bleed through or tear apart our usual mundane conscious space.Lack of emotional validation sets us up for a disconnected relationship with who we really are. Hoovering (to be explained in another blog.) Hiding true feelings and needs out of fear of being abandoned. Not allowing very real human mistakes or feeling deep shame for making mistakes. Getting a handle on when we are triggered by emotional invalidation goes a huge way to easing our pain.
Most of the time people don't invalidate whether the experience actually happened, just the interpretation of what the experience meant to the other person.