Guilt about dating
In a way, he uses his guilt trips to absolve himself of all responsibility and then feels better when you claim everything is your fault.
He is beyond twisted and plays mind games with you. You're terrified that you're going to either say the wrong thing or upset him in some way.
He validates everything he does to upset you by convincing himself that you have done worse to him.
If he cheats on you, he will excuse his infidelity because "you made him insecure in the relationship" by innocently talking to someone else.
Whenever you get in fights, he always acts as though he'd never hurt you the way that you hurt him and makes you into some sort of monster that you're clearly not.
He never does anything unconditionally and expects you to do everything unconditionally. He's the kind of person who'll do housework just so he can rub in your face that he "puts in more work than you do" when it comes to tending to your home.
In order to get what he wants, he attempts to convince you that what you want to do is wrong or not up to par with his unreasonable standards.
At least once a week, he makes you feel as though you're not as good of a partner as he is and spends way too much time trying to persuade both you and himself that he's "above" you.