Dating girl guy friends
I realized today that the concept of the “crazy chick” and the “nice guy” are opposite sides of the coin. On the flip side, we hear women complaining about the inability to find nice guys. At worst, guys are jerks, users, and incapable of being faithful. ”Nice guys: “We’re here, but you ignore or friend zone us.”I think some women are drawn to bad boys; buff ego-maniacs; and/or larger than life narcissists. The longer I date, the less I believe those statements.She has been online dating on-and-off for over 4 years.She has gone out on at least 100 first dates, interacted with over 1000 guys, and reviewed at least 10000 profiles.And I say this as someone who has had abysmal luck at dating! Rather, I have found near-misses, nice guys who were better off as friends, nice guys who didn’t have time for a relationship, the guy who chose the crazy chick over me, confused dudes, just not my type dudes, not-ready-to-date-yet guys, and jerks.You need to honor yourself and what you are attracted to, but I would recommend revisiting what you are looking for.Crazy chicks aren’t usually single for long even if most of their “relationships” tend to be short-lived. There are multiple reasons a woman is making that choice. I think a bad boy resembles the crazy girl in that he usually owns his love ’em-and-leave ’em MO from the get-go.
By the time the jerk’s true colors start to show, their lives are already enmeshed and the datee probably has strong feelings.
Stretch yourself a bit to see if you can mesh with someone you would typically dismiss.
At least give a few of those women/men a chance as an opportunity for you to grow into a new, potentially healthier dating phase.
Besides being awesome and low-drama, your best guy friends can also be a great resource for dating advice.
When faced with a traumatizing dating situation, every girl will offer advice on how horrible and manipulative guys can be, which basically makes you want to swear off the entire male species.