Dating bipolar people
But the bipolar person's partner will always have to do a bit more heavy lifting.
The balance of emotional labor will never be 50/50 - its something that needs to be accepted going into the relationship. I have absolutely no patience for other Bipolar individuals who don't stick to a care plan or medications. For every "batshit crazy" unmedicated/unmanaged bipolar person there is a successful businessman or engineer who just happens to have another aspect of their health that they manage (it isn't easy, and it isn't normal, but that's not the point).
Interesting thread - weighing in with my own (different) perspective. Really I feel like there's a mixed bag/wide spectrum here.
One thing to realize is that dating a bipolar person is inherently unfair to you - you will to make emotional concessions for them that neither you, nor any other normal person, would need or expect, much less deserve.
Kinda feel bad for her fiance, he's got a tough road ahead of him.
Depressive episodes: mostly I just need to be left alone for a while, or to do low-energy things during dates - more staying in and watching movies than going out.
I try really hard never to take out my depression on a partner." Every so often the issue will come up because it's part of a healthy relationship to be able to talk about your emotional problems, but there's a difference between making one person deal with all of your symptoms and allowing them to help/comfort you if they express a desire to do so.
It's almost hard to imagine how different my life was before getting treatment.
Never dated someone with bipolar but I have dated someone with boarderline personality disorder and it was a nightmare.
Whether or not it is a doable or "worth it" situation depends on entirely on one thing: Do they take their disorder seriously? I feel, due to cultural expectations (the man must be "take charge" and "in control" at all times) that it was somewhat easier for me to really take responsibility for myself regardless of the real emotional and behavioral hijackings that occur...simply by making me more predisposed to taking responsibility for myself on an innate level.